Melissa Plantz, Author at Allen Christian Counseling

About Melissa Plantz

Melissa Plantz is a Christian author and freelance writer. She spent twenty years in the pharmacy industry and has specialized in faith, fitness, nutrition, geriatrics, and mental health since 2015. She writes from the beautiful Lake Marion area in South Carolina.

6 Common Marital Problems and What to Do

6 Common Marital Problems and What to Do

Melissa Plantz2026-05-08T14:01:37+00:00May 8th, 2026|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Although we all strive for perfection, there is no perfect marriage. Perfection is an illusion. There will be issues, but how you manage those problems will predict how long and how strong your marriage will last. Knowing common marital problems can give you and your spouse a jumping-off point to discuss these problems before they occur. 6 Common Marital Problems Although common, marital problems can feel like the end of the world when it is happening to you. Communicating about issues before they worsen, seeking counseling when problems arise, and committing to one another can help your marriage navigate the rocky parts. The following are several common marital problems to keep in mind. Lack of Emotional Intimacy Emotional intimacy is the tie that binds you to someone. It is the “he or she gets me” vibe. It’s the little touches as you pass, the unspoken words, and the eye contact that say so much. Emotional intimacy can strengthen your marriage during the golden years when your bodies are frailer and you only have each other to lean on. A lack of emotional intimacy can lead a spouse to seek that connection from someone else. Lack of Physical Intimacy A lack of physical intimacy can create marital problems. Sex within marriage is good, and the Bible points out not to deprive each other of sexual relations unless agreed (1 Corinthians 7:5). There is a connection between husband and wife that is strengthened when they come together physically. When we avoid sex or one spouse withholds from another, temptation can arise. Lack of physical intimacy can lead to infidelity and affairs. Financial Stress Financial stress strains a marriage. When money is tight, couples might blame each other or work tirelessly to make ends meet, ultimately neglecting one another. Feelings of inadequacy [...]

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Healthy Tips for Aging in America

Healthy Tips for Aging in America

Melissa Plantz2025-10-02T07:22:32+00:00October 2nd, 2025|Aging and Geriatric Issues, Featured, Individual Counseling|

We all age. If you are blessed to live to see a long life, the aging process comes with it. The Bible states, “Gray hair is a crown of splendor; it is attained in the way of righteousness.” (Proverbs 16:31, NIV) Growing older is a blessing. But we also must remember that our bodies are not our own. They belong to the Holy Spirit and should be treated as a temple. Normal wear and tear is inevitable. Neglect and self-harm are not. You must make some lifestyle changes to be healthy while aging in America. Tips for Aging in America Breaking bad habits can be challenging if you have stuck with them for 40, 50, or 60+ years. If you want to live a long life in America, then you must learn to replace bad habits with good ones. You can do this by habit stacking. Habit stacking is adding a healthy habit to an established habit. For example, if you want to start taking a multivitamin to ensure your nutritional bases are covered, try taking the vitamin after you brush your teeth in the morning. The established habit of brushing your teeth will cue your mind that it is time to take your multivitamin. The following is a list of healthy tips for aging in America that you can habit stack into your current routine. Keep moving Dick Van Dyke wrote a book titled, Keep Moving. The actor believes that as we age, our muscles stiffen. He prescribes staying active and making movement a regular part of your day. Light cardio, flexibility, and balancing activities are all essential to protect from falls, muscle and bone loss, and a “stiffening” of the arteries and joints. Be strong Older people, particularly women, shy away from weights and body-weight exercises. However, [...]

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Feeling Depressed? Learn How Setting Goals Can Help

Feeling Depressed? Learn How Setting Goals Can Help

Melissa Plantz2025-10-31T12:44:55+00:00September 22nd, 2025|Depression, Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Women’s Issues|

If you struggle with depression, then you understand the difficulty of getting up in the morning. The same monotonous routine only makes it that much harder. For those dealing with Seasonal Affective Disorder, the fall and winter months can be incredibly challenging. If you are feeling depressed, try setting goals. A well-crafted goal and action plan can get you up in the morning, giving you something to look forward to in your day. The sense of accomplishment, as well as the journey to achieving the goal, can boost your mood and self-esteem. How Goal Setting Helps When Feeling Depressed Goal setting really can help when you are feeling depressed. The ability to work toward a goal will leave you with a sense of purpose and confidence. Imagine waking up in the morning, ready to tackle the next task on your list and watching your progress. Goal setting is a skill that will serve you for the rest of your life. When you set goals, you focus on what is important to you. When you feel like you have some control over an outcome (your goal and plans to reach that goal), you feel less anxiety and depression and more confidence. How to Set Goals Once you learn how to set goals, you can apply the concept to any area of your life. Do you want to move further in your career, improve relationships, or lose weight? Setting goals and implementing the action steps can take you there. But it all starts with a plan. The first step is fine-tuning your goal until it is clear, specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and timely. This is also known as a SMART goal. You must be able to envision your goal. For example, if you want to lose weight, you focus on precisely [...]

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The Effects of Social Media on Teens

The Effects of Social Media on Teens

Melissa Plantz2025-08-05T09:01:26+00:00August 5th, 2025|Christian Counseling For Teens, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling|

Do you remember the days when social media did not exist? The time as a teenager when you called your friends and talked for hours, or rode your bike to their houses to tell them all the latest gossip, or to make arrangements to hang out? As an adult, you chatted with your friends over the phone or met them in person. For your long-distance friendships, you wrote letters and, later, emails. Social media has changed the way we communicate with each other. With the swipe of a finger, we can learn about a friend from high school thirty years later. As mature and responsible adults, we know how to spend our time on our phones. We don’t believe everything we read, and for the most part, we scroll past posts we disagree with. Teenagers today have an almost endless supply of social media platforms to choose from and often host profiles on a few. Their role models not only include the predictable celebrities, sports players, and actors but also various influencers, whose job is to get us to buy a product or behave or think differently about a topic. But what are the effects of social media on teens? Should we be worried? The Benefits of Social Media Before discussing social media’s negative effects, we should point out the benefits. Communication has never been more accessible than now. Your teen can chat with their older sibling stationed in another country on FaceTime or learn about class changes from their school’s Facebook page. They can keep up with the football game schedule on X or get ideas about prom from posts on Instagram. Teens can also scan college QR codes and learn more about their chosen fields through the universities’ pages. If they are looking for motivation for a career, [...]

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Common Signs of OCD in Adults

Common Signs of OCD in Adults

Melissa Plantz2025-02-19T11:54:20+00:00February 19th, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, OCD|

Signs of OCD in adults can interfere with your daily responsibilities and relationships. The behaviors can be embarrassing, and many people with OCD struggle to behave normally around others. What is OCD? Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a mental health disorder affecting more than 1.2% of the American adult population. Our thoughts influence our emotions, and how we react to these emotions results in behaviors. With OCD, intrusive or obsessive thoughts lead to anxiety and fear, resulting in compulsive behaviors to relieve those emotions. The compulsive behaviors give temporary relief, but the obsessive thoughts quickly return. The signs of OCD in adults can lead to trouble at work, school, and home. Many people with OCD feel helpless to stop their thoughts and compulsions. They may withdraw from society. When they engage in compulsive behaviors, they feel no pleasure. It is only a way to relieve the anxiety for a little while. Common Signs of OCD in Adults Most with OCD exhibit one or two signs of adult OCD. These behaviors go beyond wanting a clean kitchen, good personal hygiene, or going back to make sure you locked the back door. These behaviors are extreme and are the result of unwanted thoughts and fear. Only a mental health practitioner can diagnose OCD. Contact a mental health professional if you suspect you have OCD. Washing hands – Someone with OCD may fear germs or getting sick. They may wash their hands to the extreme, resulting in dry, cracked, raw, or bleeding hands. They may overuse hand sanitizer and avoid touching surfaces or shaking hands with people. Excessive cleaning – Germs and getting sick are a driving force behind many people with the type of OCD of excessive cleaning. They may clean a space several times using bleach and other products. They [...]

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9 Signs of Addictive Behavior

9 Signs of Addictive Behavior

Melissa Plantz2024-09-24T12:58:40+00:00July 9th, 2024|Chemical Dependency, Featured, Individual Counseling|

The brain rewards us for specific tasks that make us happy. For example, you binge-watch your favorite television program after a long day at work. You feel the stress leave your body as the brain releases dopamine and other chemicals to make you feel happy. The next time you have a stressful day, you will feel the urge to relax on the couch in front of the television. This becomes an addictive behavior. The brain creates neural pathways to recognize these behaviors. Addictive behavior is slightly different. Behaviors like kleptomania (theft), gambling, pornography, and shopping are also addictive behaviors. Substance abusers consume chemicals that change the chemistry in the brain. The substances consumed with addictive behavior, such as alcohol, illicit drugs, and prescription drugs, change the brain’s chemistry and the reward system. This is why it is difficult to stop. The person who has an addiction will go through a withdrawal period, which can make them physically ill. What are the signs of addictive behavior? There are various signs of addictive behavior, and in most cases, these can signal addiction to other behaviors aside from alcohol and substance abuse. You can use the following signs also to pinpoint addictions like pornography, gambling, and food. What characterizes addictive behavior is compulsion, craving, consequence, and loss of control. These characteristics can be applied to most addictive behaviors. Conflict at work Due to the compulsion of an addiction, it becomes the sole focus of the user. The person may stop caring about going to work or doing a good job. They may show up late for work, call in more often, not complete tasks, or cause conflict in the workplace with others. Spending excessive amounts of money on addiction Even if finances are tight, someone with addictive behavior will plan their income [...]

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Aging in America: Long-term Care Options

Aging in America: Long-term Care Options

Melissa Plantz2025-04-23T06:21:48+00:00June 22nd, 2023|Aging and Geriatric Issues, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling|

There is a certain anxiety that many people face when they consider the future. They worry about what they will do when they reach retirement or who will care for them if they can no longer care for themselves. With more people aging in America, a retiree may live well into their eighties, nineties, or beyond. For successful aging in America, we should plan for long-term care even if we do not think we might need it. We can remove some of the anxiety and fear by having a written plan for long-term care in case of an emergency. Christian Counseling Allen can help guide individuals and families through the emotional and spiritual aspects of long-term care planning, offering support during these important decisions. For example, you may plan to live in your own home after retirement. However, twenty years after retirement, circumstances may require you to seek long-term care, possibly in an assisted living facility where you can age in place with healthcare available as you need it. Knowing the options available to you can make it easier to plan for the future. Types of long-term care Long-term care may be required if you struggle with activities for daily living (ADLs), such as housekeeping, preparing meals, personal hygiene and grooming, and laundry. These can range from someone checking in on you at home a couple of times per week or you live at a facility with full-time care. Unpaid family and friends. The most common option is relying on family and friends for help. These are unpaid caregivers who may stop in weekly to help clean and do laundry. This option also includes family members who live with you and help with ADLs like bathing, toileting, and cooking. Many family members fill this role for aging parents and [...]

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What to Do When You Get Stuck in the Grieving Process

What to Do When You Get Stuck in the Grieving Process

Melissa Plantz2025-05-15T07:59:02+00:00June 5th, 2023|Featured, Grief Counseling, Individual Counseling|

No one wishes to lose a loved one, yet the passing on of someone close to us is part of the cycle of life. We may question why a loved one was taken from us, but in the end, we must learn to move forward through the grieving process and be present for the people here. The grieving process helps to facilitate that healing. We feel the loss in stages or phases, and our emotions have time to process the loss. However, there is no set time period for grieving. We cannot estimate that someone will go from the shock of learning of a loved one’s death to accepting life without them in a few days. This process is different for everyone. You may mourn for several weeks to several years. Christian Counseling Allen can provide support during this challenging time, helping you navigate the grief process with compassion and faith-based guidance. The grieving process There are five stages of the grieving process. The first is shock or denial: you cannot believe the person is gone. You keep waiting to hear that their alleged death is a prank or a mistake. The second stage is anger. You wonder how did this happen or who is responsible. You may be looking for someone to blame, or you may blame yourself. You may even be angry at your loved one for leaving you or being at the wrong place at the wrong time in an accident. The third stage is bargaining. You may pray that God let you die instead of your loved one. Or you may obsess over what you would give up for another day with your loved one. The fourth stage is depression. This stage often hits hard and in waves. Unlike persistent sadness, a common sign of [...]

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Examples of Depression in the Bible

Examples of Depression in the Bible

Melissa Plantz2025-05-15T07:31:14+00:00September 27th, 2022|Depression, Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development|

The Bible is full of wisdom. It contains numerous examples of people chosen by God with the same weaknesses and sins that we experience today. Lust, anger, and depression in the Bible are shown to help us realize that God is with us just like He was with those people long ago. When we study God’s word, we learn how to apply its principles to our lives. Most people experience depression at some level in life. Call for assistance at Christian Counseling Allen immediately if you are in a season of depression and need help or have thoughts of self-harm or suicide. Causes of Depression Depression can occur for various reasons: A chemical imbalance A hormonal imbalance Trauma Grief or loss Coexisting with another mental disorder Other people’s actions Bad decisions and consequences Depression can also seem to come out of nowhere and last for weeks or months. You will see that the people who experienced depression in the Bible had it for numerous reasons, many a matter of life and death. Examples of Depression in the Bible The examples of people struggling with depression in the Bible experience different forms of the condition. Some experience mild symptoms of feeling downcast and burdened, while others show a severe form. Elijah Elijah was known as a great prophet for God and once stood up against 450 prophets of Baal, as God gave a spectacular display of His power. But after such a massive victory for God, Elijah began to suffer burnout and exhaustion. On top of this, Queen Jezebel wanted him dead, forcing him into hiding. While he squirreled away from his enemies, he was left alone with his thoughts. Elijah was afraid and ran for his life. When he came to Beersheba in Judah, he left his servant there, [...]

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Am I Losing My Mind? Symptoms of Stress and Anxiety

Am I Losing My Mind? Symptoms of Stress and Anxiety

Melissa Plantz2025-04-17T06:07:51+00:00July 13th, 2022|Anxiety, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

The world seems to run on stress and anxiety. We think we are being productive when we burn both ends of the candle and hustle to make more, be more, and have more. But stress and anxiety can lead to mental and physical symptoms, resulting in mental health conditions, illness, and a shorter life span. However, with a few lifestyle changes, you can decrease stress, alleviate anxiety symptoms, and live a more peaceful life. Christian Counseling Allen can help guide you through these changes with faith-based support and practical strategies. Physical and Emotional Symptoms of Stress and Anxiety Stress affects every system within the body, yet it can be challenging to pinpoint precisely what stress is, unlike something tangible such as a tumor. Stress hormones are released when we are confronted with danger (think about a tiger chasing you!). Unfortunately, these same chemicals are released when we are presented with less dangerous (and fatal) things like overdue bills, toxic relationships, and financial problems. The following are several symptoms of stress and anxiety: Feeling out of sorts (anxious or nervous) Short of breath or rapid breathing Rapid heart rate Shaking or trembling Fatigue Excessive sweating Unable to focus Feelings of dread or panic Sleep disturbances Headaches and digestive issues Unexplained aches and pains High blood pressure Tension in the back and neck muscles Low sex drive Each bodily system is represented in the above symptoms: reproductive, nervous, gastrointestinal, cardiovascular, musculoskeletal, respiratory, and endocrine. This list does not include the psychological effects anxiety brings about or combines with other mental health conditions. How to Increase Your Sense of Wellbeing and Peace Nothing is more frustrating than to have someone say, “Just stress less, and your anxiety will stop!” Chronic stress can happen subconsciously, yet it can affect you physically and psychologically. [...]

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