Kimberlyn Jaggers

About Kimberlyn Jaggers

As your counselor, I will meet you exactly where you are with unconditional compassion to help you navigate life’s trials and challenges. No matter where you are in your relationship with God, I offer a safe space to be heard in all situations. My ultimate goal is to display the love of Christ to each individual who enters the therapy room, no matter their past, their religion, or their trials. Clients will also benefit from my work being supervised by marriage and family therapist Monica Marterella, MS, LMFT-S, LPC-S. With kindness and a nonjudgmental presence, I will work with you to create a treatment plan to help you meet your goals and experience the growth God has planned for you.

Why Are Female Friendships Important to Women?

, 2026-10-17T05:33:02+00:00October 19th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues, Women’s Issues|

Female friendships are foundationally important for women. At our core, we are created for relationships. Ideally, these relationships will be life-giving and offer us not just companionship, but growth opportunities and support. The Bible encourages relationships because God invented the idea, and He gave His life so that He could restore relationship with us. The Bible explicitly tells us that we should surround ourselves with people who can challenge us to live closer to the Lord and be the best versions of ourselves we can be. We are to be in relationships that sharpen us, just as iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17). Why is it important to have female relationships? Female friendships can be an important part of this sharpening. They can also bring emotional comfort, lots of coffee, and laughter. They’re an important part of womanhood because of the unique ways that women relate to each other. While these sharpening friendships aren’t exclusively reserved for platonic, same-sex friendships, there are some compelling reasons why female friendships can fulfill this directive and can deeply enrich your life. Women are emotionally intelligent Female friendships are often deeply personal because most women are naturally inclined toward emotional awareness and deep connections. Women tend to have a high Emotional Quotient, or EQ. That means that they are skilled at recognizing emotions, both in themselves and in others. They also excel in responding with empathy because of this deep ability to feel. Because of this, female friendships can grow deep emotional bonds. Conversations often go beyond surface-level topics and move into meaningful discussions about deep-seated fears, hopes, and relationships. This bond can happen relatively quickly. Women are empathetic Everyone can learn to be empathetic, but women tend to excel in this area naturally. These female-to-female friendships often mimic what the Scripture tells us [...]

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The Silent Weight of Ambiguous Grief and the Faith That Sustains You

, 2026-10-10T05:48:42+00:00October 12th, 2026|Featured, Grief Counseling, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development|

There are times when we are not warned of the hardest grief we will carry. It is a grief that isn’t met with an obituary or recognized with a ceremony. There are no cards of encouragement, and life seems to come to a stop. No dinners are being delivered for a relationship that ended before goodbye was said. But the weight of this grief is real, and it does not get lighter because no one seems to see it. This is called ambiguous grief, and it lives in the unnamed spaces between what is and what you believed would be. For Christians, it can be especially disorienting because it does not follow the rules, and even the most well-meaning comfort lands nowhere near the actual loss. What Makes Ambiguous Grief Different Many individuals believe that grief is something that follows a death. It’s the grief that comes within the process of mourning someone you have lost that leads to a way to move forward. Ambiguous grief does not work that way. This grief comes from the loss that is not clearly defined. A parent whose life is redefined by dementia, or a marriage that dissolves slowly before ending, or a dream that stopped quietly. These are all real losses, but there is no pause to acknowledge them: no ceremonies, no designated mourning time, and no permission to fall apart. This type of loss, which is clearly unmarked, often goes unspoken. People around you don’t understand why you’re even grieving. They may acknowledge the difficulty, yet they expect you to adjust and move on quickly. The silence from others and from yourself leads to a feeling of being emotionally unmoored. The result is a quiet but persistent sadness, mistaken for depression, anxiety, or ungratefulness. Christians find that this is layered in [...]

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5 Things You Need to Know About Intrusive Thoughts

, 2026-09-01T08:38:10+00:00September 1st, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Spiritual Development, Women’s Issues|

At some point, everyone has had an unexpected thought that whispers something like, “Did I switch the stove off after breakfast this morning?” You might easily dismiss a thought like this, or you might text a roommate or spouse, asking them to make sure that the stove is off if they are home. For people without OCD, intrusive thoughts are like little stabs of panic that come out of nowhere and fade as fast as they appeared. They can even be helpful prompts, ensuring that they double-check important details that would otherwise be forgotten. By contrast, people with OCD are tortured by intrusive thoughts, and the thoughts don’t lead to anything that could be considered helpful. They are more than little stabs of panic; they are relentless, repetitive, exhausting, and they often feel impossible to ignore. Intrusive thoughts are a symptom of OCD that fuels obsessive behavior and results in compulsive behavior. The repeating anxious thought that you forgot to switch the stove off before you left home might result in you having to check that all appliances in the home are off multiple times before you feel safe enough to leave the house. In this case, the intrusive thoughts are not helpful because they cause untold amounts of anxiety and have resulted in you developing a compulsive ritual. Five Things to Know About Intrusive Thoughts Sometimes people without OCD have disturbing intrusive thoughts, like having an urge to make a noise at a funeral, or wondering what it would feel like to jump off the precipice they are standing on. Thoughts of violence or unusual behavior like this are your brain’s way of preparing you for every outcome in the situation, no matter how unlikely. Your brain is prompting you to be prepared should something unexpected happen. Even when [...]

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New Women’s Insecurities Brought About by the Digital Era

, 2026-07-21T07:59:03+00:00July 21st, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Women’s Issues|

As long as we can remember, women have had to face insurmountable hurdles and overcome great impediments that have contributed to women’s insecurities for centuries. Women across the world have had to fight for basic human rights such as voting, owning property, and walking without an escort. Sadly, some of our fellow women are still fighting for these rights in other parts of the world to this day. However, the 21st century has generally brought about a significant reduction in some of these practices against women. Many traditional practices and beliefs that traditionally contributed to women’s insecurities, like gender bias, workplace inequalities, gender-based violence, and social stigmas, were issues modern women thought were behind us. But just when women had begun to walk in light of this progress, a new and unexpected challenge has emerged, reviving women’s struggles with insecurities yet again. The Rise of the Digital Era The digital era, also known as the Digital Revolution or Information Age, began in the mid-twentieth century. It has been marked by the transition from traditional industries to an economy centered on information technology. This has had a profound impact on women, bringing both opportunities and challenges. Opportunities the digital world has opened for women include: Economic Empowerment Digital technologies have opened new job opportunities, particularly in tech and remote work, allowing women to balance work and family responsibilities more effectively. Education and Skills Development Online learning platforms have made education more accessible, enabling women to acquire new skills and advance their careers. Entrepreneurship The internet has provided a platform for women entrepreneurs to start and grow businesses, reaching global markets with minimal investment. Advocacy and Activism Social media and digital tools have empowered women to advocate for their rights, raise awareness about gender issues, and mobilize support for social causes. While [...]

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Under the Anxiety Hood: Finding the Hidden Links Between Parents’ and Kids’ Mental Health

, 2026-06-30T12:52:17+00:00June 19th, 2026|Anxiety, Christian Counseling for Children, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling|

Anxiety in adults is increasing. One study suggests that 43% of adults feel more anxiety than they did a year ago. Anxiety and fears range from financial and health issues to politics and safety. But one thing is clear: Adults who have anxiety are more likely to have children who also have anxiety. Like a mechanic looking under the hood of a car to examine the roots of an engine issue, this article explains what anxiety is, how parental anxiety impacts kids’ mental health (including teens), and ways to help each other through it. What is anxiety? At some level, anxiety can be normal and even helpful in small amounts. Think about getting nervous for a test, so it makes you sit down and study, or preparing for a tough presentation at work because you are a little worried you’ll stumble over your words. If a little nervousness or fear of not doing well motivates you to prepare and stay on track, and it is not debilitating, you may be okay. Anxiety disorders, however, are different. An anxiety disorder interferes with your everyday life, can cause dread, fear, and extreme fixation on what-ifs that prevent you from taking risks or trying new things. While the cause is still unknown, doctors have identified six main types of anxiety disorders. The most common traits of an anxiety disorder are that it interferes with your everyday life, causes you to respond in extreme ways, and is difficult for you to control. The types of anxiety range from generalized anxiety disorder, characterized by fear and worry about everyday life that can be detrimental and all-consuming, to panic disorder, social anxiety disorder, phobias, social anxiety disorder, and agoraphobia. Why Parents’ Anxiety Levels Have Risen It’s tough to nail down why parents’ anxiety seems to [...]

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Finding Refuge from Anxiety and Intrusive Thoughts

, 2026-04-29T07:49:49+00:00April 27th, 2026|Anxiety, Featured, Individual Counseling, Women’s Issues|

You take your heart and mind with you wherever you go, and you can’t get away from them. This makes it even more distressing if you find yourself struggling with anxiety and intrusive thoughts. Life is best experienced in the moment, without being pulled away by distractions around you or inside of you. Thankfully, there are ways for you to grow in being more present and to quiet your anxious and intrusive thoughts. How Anxiety and Intrusive Thoughts Are Connected One of the more comforting promises the Lord made to His followers was this: “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid” (John 14:27, ESV). Even though Jesus gave this peace to His disciples, and He gives that peace to them through the Holy Spirit, they often find themselves having little peace, struggling to hold onto a semblance of calm. If that is you, you aren’t alone, as anxiety and intrusive thoughts are struggles that many believers face. Often, they do so in silence because they may feel it’s unbecoming to struggle in this way. Think about it, though – anxiety and struggling to quiet our hearts is a common enough concern that it features quite often throughout Scripture. It’s important to understand the connection between our anxiety and intrusive thoughts. There is a close connection between anxiety and intrusive thoughts. Anxiety is the natural response we have to danger or situations where we feel under a threat of some kind, even if it’s mild. Intrusive thoughts are typically unwanted and disturbing images or ideas that just pop into your mind unrequested. You’re just going about your day, and then a random and unpleasant thought [...]

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Beauty Standards and Women’s Insecurities

, 2026-04-29T07:45:00+00:00April 23rd, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Women’s Issues|

Why is it that women feel that they need to look pretty to be valuable? Unfortunately, there are a lot of reasons this belief has taken root. The world screams that “image is everything” not only in words, but in action. Open a fashion magazine, any magazine really, and you will likely find impossibly thin and flawlessly beautiful women gracing the pages. Perfectly curated and meticulously edited photos of the world’s most beautiful women are used to sell everything from clothing and beauty products to food, cars, and even cleaning products. While the overt message in these ads is “Buy my product,” the underlying and damaging message is, “You have to be physically perfect to be beautiful.” How We Got Here How did we get to this shallow and damning place? From an early age, girls are force-fed edited photos in magazines, on television, and in movies. You’ve probably heard the term “Sex sells.” The unfortunate truth is that that raw statement is embarrassingly true. Jean Kilbourne, a pioneering feminist critic, brought the issue of impossible beauty standards in Hollywood and advertisements in her documentary series Killing Us Softly: Advertising’s Image of Women in 1979. The series took a critical look at ways in which advertisements depict women, often reducing them to mere objects, and discussed the social implications of these practices. Although awareness of this phenomenon has helped to inspire some companies to use more “average” people in their advertising, the impossibly perfect depiction of women persists. And with that persistence comes the damaging message that perfection is the benchmark for beauty. Toys like the Barbie doll contribute to building young girls’ idea of ideal beauty. With unrealistic body proportions and superhuman good looks, the Barbie doll has long served as a silent teacher of what beauty “should” [...]

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The Link Between Childhood Sibling Bullying and Sibling Abandonment

, 2026-03-27T10:20:07+00:00March 5th, 2026|Abandonment and Neglect, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Childhood memories should remind us of a time when we were safe and loved in our family unit. However, for those of us who have been on the receiving end of sibling bullying, it can sometimes result in sibling abandonment later in life. The age-old adage of blood being thicker than water perhaps could not hold more relevance than when discussing siblings in any given environment. Siblings share a unique history, camaraderie, and an understanding that cannot be duplicated by any other bond. It seems so easy to just let siblings’ teasing slide and say it’s just a childhood thing, but what happens when the teasing becomes hostile? As a matter of fact, many adults have been carrying their wounds from having been bullied by a brother or sister at some point earlier in life. Sometimes it can even cause family ties to be estranged. Sibling rivalry seems innocently childish. However, when that behavior crosses into bullying, it has proven to have long-lasting psychological consequences if not stopped. Understanding Where Sibling Abandonment Starts Abandonment of siblings is a serious and devastating situation where one or multiple siblings in a family deliberately create distance between themselves and their brothers or sisters, whether emotionally or physically. They may even cut off contact with each other. Despite growing up in the same house and spending childhood with one another, some people cease all communication and sever all relationships with siblings. This can isolate the siblings and instill a sense of hopelessness, leaving them further at risk of mental health issues such as anxiety and depression. Besides the emotional devastation that it causes for all members of the family involved in the conflict, it can also bring feelings of guilt among other family members who feel caught in the middle. The most common reasons [...]

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How to Fix a Toxic Relationship: Identification and Impact

, 2026-01-16T06:30:09+00:00January 16th, 2026|Couples Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues|

One of the strongest indicators of personal well-being and flourishing is the presence of healthy, nurturing relationships. While career success and financial stability are valuable, they cannot fully compensate for a lack of supportive connections. When your relationships are positive, relatively conflict-free, and marked by a deep sense of connection, you’re more likely to experience genuine happiness than someone with prestige or wealth, but who struggles with poor, unsupportive relationships. Our relationships play an essential role in our lives, providing us with companionship and support. Because healthy connections are so vital, the effects of harmful or toxic relationships can be especially devastating. Toxic relationships can drain your energy, confidence, and overall happiness, making life feel as though you’re trudging endlessly through a personal fog of despair. Recognizing signs of toxicity is crucial to making more empowered choices that nurture, not deplete, your mental and emotional health. Identifying a Toxic Relationship The first step in addressing and potentially healing a toxic relationship is learning to recognize it. Easier said than done because when you’re in a harmful dynamic long enough, you stop seeing how bizarre it is, and you begin to do things that don’t make much sense. For instance, you may be in a relationship where your partner constantly belittles you or your career ambitions. After a while, such behavior seems normal. However, you may still notice the oddness of certain behaviors, especially when in the company of others. Friends or colleagues may make comments or ask, “Why do they speak to you like that?” It’s important in those moments not to justify or excuse your partner, but to honestly face the question. A toxic relationship can take many forms, and its patterns often look different from one relationship to another. One sign of a toxic relationship involves a persistent [...]

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Giving Meaningful Support to Kids with ADHD

, 2025-11-19T05:46:17+00:00November 19th, 2025|ADHD/ADD, Christian Counseling for Children, Christian Counseling For Teens, Family Counseling, Featured|

There will always be challenges when it comes to parenting. Some challenges are common and run-of-the-mill, while others might require a parent to dig deeper, learn more, and adapt. Parents and caregivers must determine what to do when a child has colic, an ear infection, pinkeye, or allergies. Similarly, they have to learn and adapt when their child has a learning disability or other concerns that affect their development and daily functioning. ADHD is a challenge that many parents and caregivers face, but it can be managed well. There are resources available to help provide the best and most effective support available for a child, helping them to live their lives to the fullest. What is ADHD? The term ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) is used to describe a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects both children and adults. ADHD is identifiable by three main symptoms, which include inattention or difficulty sustaining focus and completing tasks; hyperactivity, which can manifest as restlessness or excessive activity; and impulsivity, which involves being disruptive and interrupting others, as well as difficulty waiting one’s turn. ADHD is a term that is widely used and common, but some researchers and clinicians prefer to use the term ADD (attention deficit disorder) as a way to describe people who primarily have symptoms of inattention without displaying significant hyperactivity. The signs of ADHD are present and can be discerned in children aged 3-4, but these become more consistent and apparent later, around 6-7 years of age. It is important to detect ADHD early and to put interventions in place and properly support the child. The strategies that help a child thrive are impacted by how early it’s identified. This is by no means to say that later detection means a parent or caregiver can’t give meaningful support; rather, getting help [...]

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